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December 29th, 2003
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From:rationalsorrow
Date:December 28th, 2003 09:08 pm (UTC)
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We're opposites, you and I. I search for subtext in everything. To me, it's much more important to understand what people mean, not what they actually say. This is only because I know that 75% of the time, I mean something completely different from what I say.

And just so you know, usually, everything anyone says has, "Pay me a compliment," "I'm insecure," and "I need attention," as subtext. These are constant, daily longings, and it's helpful to take them as a given.
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From:unfilthy
Date:December 28th, 2003 10:10 pm (UTC)
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So true. I can't imagine going through life without constantly interpreting subtexts. My husband, OTOH, is the complete opposite. I have found that he needs to have things made explicit if I'm to get what I need (instead of us getting into a fight).
It can be highly frustrating, though, because he naturally gets his implied needs addressed, while I have to do all the work for him when the situation is reversed.
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From:rationalsorrow
Date:December 29th, 2003 06:58 pm (UTC)
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I have a few friends like your husband, and I do find them frustrating. But you can't control what kinds of people you end up caring about, so I've ended up finding compromises with them. Nowadays, I tend to be very direct with all but my most secret needs. While it may be difficult or strange to say, "I am feeling sad right now. Give me a hug," it actually does work. So I save subtlety and double meanings for my poetry and prose. :)
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From:unfilthy
Date:December 30th, 2003 07:22 am (UTC)
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"I am feeling sad right now. Give me a hug"

That's the perfect example. I can't count the number of times I've said this. You're right, it does work, and it's not that hard to do once you're used to it, but sometimes I want to be hugged without having to ask for it, you know?
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