Insight by Night - Impressions and Expressions of Ijon — LiveJournal
Insight by Night|
|Date:||December 28th, 2003 10:10 pm (UTC)|| |
So true. I can't imagine going through life without constantly interpreting subtexts. My husband, OTOH, is the complete opposite. I have found that he needs to have things made explicit if I'm to get what I need (instead of us getting into a fight).
It can be highly frustrating, though, because he naturally gets his implied needs addressed, while I have to do all the work for him when the situation is reversed.
I have a few friends like your husband, and I do find them frustrating. But you can't control what kinds of people you end up caring about, so I've ended up finding compromises with them. Nowadays, I tend to be very direct with all but my most secret needs. While it may be difficult or strange to say, "I am feeling sad right now. Give me a hug," it actually does work. So I save subtlety and double meanings for my poetry and prose. :)
|Date:||December 30th, 2003 07:22 am (UTC)|| |
"I am feeling sad right now. Give me a hug"
That's the perfect example. I can't count the number of times I've said this. You're right, it does work, and it's not that hard to do once you're used to it, but sometimes I want to be hugged without having to ask for it, you know?